Tuesday, November 24, 2009

No Black Friday Here!



Ok....I am going to shock a bunch of you readers today.
Especially if you have read my shopping exploits all these past months.
Ready??

I do NOT go shopping on Black Friday!

There I said it and I was not struck down by lightning.

Ok, so why does a Shopping Maven like myself NOT imbibe in this Buying Holiday Ritual? 
No, I am not Scrooge or the Grinch or Anti-Christmas/Hanukkah in any way, shape or form.

My reasons....
I do not enjoy crowds of surly people.
I do not enjoy standing in long lines, especially if it involves doing so in cold weather.
I do not enjoy being led by retailers like sheeple on the pretense of getting a "deal" that probably isn't.
And mostly....
I do not enjoy the mindlessly consuming of STUFF!

 Add in that I don't enjoy DEBT....because that is what happens when you mindlessly comsume and spend all your money, or worse, spend money you Do NOT have.....can you say Credit Cards?...hello??

But if Black Friday is a day you enjoy the commraderie and excitement of going shopping, the best of luck to you in your pursuit.

Please keep in mind these points before you go....

1. Stay Safe!
Every year we hear reports of people being injured or even killed on Black Friday(remember that poor Security Guard at WalMart who was trampled to death?).  In your haste to get a deal, don't put yourself in a situation where you could be trampled in a rush to get into a store or to a limited quantity item.  Also don't get into a tug-of-war with other shoppers over a product.  Some folks, as my momma would have said, "are not raised right", and would just as soon hit you as smile at you if you try to take the last $2 toaster from the bin that they had their hands on when you went to grab it too.

2. Don't Stand in Lines for Hours.
Getting some valuable, highly sought after item for a really low price is exciting, I'll grant you that.  But think about what you are willing to do to get it for cheap.  How valuable is your time?  How much of that time are you willing to trade for a inexpensive electronic or 'hot' toy?  Is saving $50 on it's price worth spending 3 hours of your time waiting in dark frigid weather for a store to open?  Especially when that same electronic/toy will probably be on sale for a lot less next month or so, for what they are charging for it today?

If those lines entail waiting outside for a store to open it's doors, please be aware of what is going on around you.  If the store is in a questionably safe part of town and it's still dark outside please be vigilant and safety-minded.(This also would fall under #1 above.)  Many is the time someone has been attacked while waiting outside in the wee hours of the morning.  Also be aware that many people have been assaulted or robbed upon leaving a store if they were successful in obtaining some very limited item.  The frenzy retailers whip people up into selling these highly-limited-special-price-items makes some folks so crazy if they don't get the goods, that they'll commit a crime to get the item from you!  Don't be a victim of this.

3. Do some research and a reality check before you go.
Don't get blinded by consuming lust in regard to the Deals available on Black Friday.  Those glossy ads for that Plasma TV or whatever are created to suck you into spending money, true.  But make sure what they are advertising and what you are buying is truly a Good Deal.  Many times the 'incredibly low priced item' on Black Friday is a Non-Standard model or what they call a 'derivative' in the business.  It will not be the same as the standard model that sells for regular price.  There will be less features or other differences(made of cheaper materials, less or no warranty, etc.) in Black Friday's model.  That is why they can offer it so cheap.  That $2 toaster is probably only worth $2 and it might be just something else to dispose of in 6 months.  Retailers don't give you a great deal out of the goodness of their hearts.  They are in business for one reason....to make money.  To think anything else is naive on your part.
I'd recommend for starters that anyone who is 'chasing the deals' on Black Friday read THIS ARTICLE before shopping this year.  I think in regards to the 'deals' on Black Friday you need to keep the old adage, "You get what you pay for" in mind.

4. Remember what makes sense for your Budget and don't stray from that!  
It's so easy, given the mass hysteria atmosphere in the stores on Black Friday, to spend too much money.  Buying something just because it is a STEAL is very common.  There is a physiologically proven "rush" to your system (via endorphins)when you get a bargain.  But raise your hand if you have succumb to buying a bargain just for the sake of it being a bargain, and when you got something home had no clue WHY you bought it and wish you had your hard-earned dollars back.  Before you hand over your money at the register, ask yourself, "do I REALLY NEED THIS ITEM?".  If the thrill of the moment has you in it's grips, try walking around the store with the item in your cart for awhile until you can think with a clear head.  You might find you end up telling yourself you can pass this bargain up and go on to the next deal.
If you are going shopping, take CASH ONLY and leave your credit cards at home.  Or if you plan on spending a lot of money and taking cash would be foolhardy(see #1 above), take a Debit Card that will deduct the money spent from your bank account directly.
And stick to a budgeted amount to spend.  Make this Holiday Season the first one where you have everything paid for BEFORE the HOLIDAY!  It makes for a much more enjoyable Holiday if you don't live with that thought in the back of your mind that you'll be paying it all off for months to come.

So why, you may ask, doesn't Sluggy feel the need to have to chase all those potential bargains on Black Friday?  I'll tell you.
Besides not enjoying crowds, cold, lines & too-much stuff, I don't have to endure those things to save a few dollars during the Holidays.

Because dear readers, if you look to the right along the side of my blog you'll see the evidence in my SAVINGS TOTALS for the YEAR, that I've spent wisely, using sales and coupons all year long.  Having managed my money throughout the year means I don't have to be a crazy person(my apologies to any crazy people out there) when it comes to saving on Holiday spending.  I don't go hog wild consuming at the Holidays like many in our culture.  Between living a frugal life during the rest of the year and spending moderately during the Holidays I have a paid off house, no credit card debt, no car payment, and I can put money away for emergencies, my kid's college and retirement.

So ask yourself what would you rather have?
Piles and piles of Stuff and no money to show for all your hard work?
Or no debt, high savings, a little bit of stuff and the freedom to live your life without owing anyone anything?
I know what I'd pick.....and have! ;-)

Happy Shopping and Stay Sensible.  I'll think of you while I'm toasty and warm in bed until Noon on Friday.


Sluggy

Monday, November 23, 2009

Meal Plan Monday....November 23rd Editon It's all about the Bird!


I am late again with the menu this week but at least it's still Monday.lol

Last Week's Menu Postmortem...

No Chicken Parm(moves to this week)and no Apple Pie.  Just been appled out lately and didn't even want to look at them, much less cook them.lol  Hubby did another bang up job with cooking dinner on Sunday...it was salmon, buttercup squash and rice by the way.

Here's what I will be serving our family of 4 this Week, with company on Thursday....

MONDAY--Ham Slices(freezer), Mac & Cheese(stockpile),
TUESDAY--Chicken Parmesan(freezer), Salad(fridge), Spaghetti(stockpile)
WEDNESDAY--homemade Chili(stockpile/freezer), Cornbread(stockpile)

THURSDAY--Thanksgiving-turkey, sweet potatoes, stuffing, cranberry, mixed vegetables, gravy, rolls(all from fridge/freezer/stockpile except for 2 items)
FRIDAY--Grilled Pastrami Panini(fridge), Soup(stockpile)
SATURDAY--Leftovers
SUNDAY--Date Night w/Hubby, teens will fend for themselves
SNACKS/DESSERTS--Pumpkin Pie,various sweets in the freezer from Baking Day

Last week I spent $62.44 on food and toiletries(Not couting my Rite-Aid spending as I will have overage there after the rebates come in).  I wasn't successful in staying out of the grocery store last week, as there was a Catalina Deal at 2 different stores.
These are my downfall.lol
Most of my spending was on the Cat Deals(except for $4 for a turkey for this week) and not on items I needed for my specific meal plan last week.  I have very few items to pick up this week(celery, whipped cream and weekly milk purchases) and am allotting $10 for these.  I do have $15 in Cats to spend by Wednesday at Acme so if they have decent prices on those items I'll actually spend less than $10. Besides the Acme trip, I refuse to set foot in a grocery store this week.  And since it's Black Friday week I probably won't set foot in ANY store for the rest of the week!lol

Food Waste Report....the only spoiled food was 3 slices of bread that went moldy. All vegetable waste composted along with that bread.

Check out ORGANIZING JUNKIE to see what other Home Cooks are serving this week.

And here's hoping everyone has family and/or friends to keep close and celebrate their blessings with this Thanksgiving Holiday!

Sluggy

Sunday's Rite-Aid Quest....It's All About Digestive Tracts this Week

I was up and out of the house bright & early.....well, early for me! on Sunday morning.
I had things to get at Rite-Aid that I knew I'd have to work to find them.  You see, there are two nice FAR(=FREE AFTER REBATE)items this week at Rite-Aid, neither of which are plentiful on the shelves when they aren't on special, so I suspected that there wouldn't be much if any extra inventory at the stores for this sale.

The two FAR items are a 4 pack of Benevia Drinks for $7.99 and a Colon Cleanse for $17.99. There are $2 ManuQ from last month or a $5 IPQ if you signed up for the Benevia newsletter on their website.
No Qs for the Cleanse but if you buy both together, you can use one of the various $ off Rite-Aid IPQs for a nice little Moneymaker after rebates.

Plus Sunday was the first day of the Holiday Gift of Savings Program at Rite-Aid.  From now until Dec. 24th, anything you buy(except for a few exceptions like rxs, tobacco products and lottery tickets, etc.)counts toward your total spending for the period.  Spend enough and you get a Gift Certificate good off merchandise at Rite-Aid the beginning of next year.  Your spending is tallied BEFORE any coupons you might use to bring your OOP down, so you get to the goal quicker.

There is also a FREEBIE or 1 Cent MONEYMAKER in the store besides the SCRebate items.
There is a $4 off in-ad Q for Ducolax Balance in the weekly sales flyer.  Pair that with either the available $3 Ducolax IPQ OR the $3 winetag/hangtag Q found on some bottles of the product to get this item for no Out of Pocket Cash!  Even if you don't use this product, you can buy it to get your transaction total up so you can use a $OFF Rite-Aid Q OR add to your Holiday Gift of Savings spending to get a bigger Gift Certificate by Dec. 24th.  Now if you buy it just for those purposes, remember to give the product away or donate it to someone who can use it.  ;-)

Anyway, I ended up doing 4 transactions at 3 different stores.  Remember, I submit for 2 sets of rebates, one for me and one for my BIL and I can use the Wellness Program/Qs.  So here is what I bought....

Transaction #1/Store #1

1 x Colon Cleanse on sale $17.99
1 x Ducolax Balance on sale $6.99
1 x Wonderful Pistachios on sale $2.50
Subtotal...$27.48

Coupons Used
1 x $5 off $25 Rite-Aid IPQ=$5.00
1 x $3/1 Ducolax IPQ=$3.00
1 x $4/1 Ducolax FlyerQ=$4.00
1 x $1/1 Wonderful Pistachis ManuQ=$1.00
Coupon Total....$13.00

$27.48-$13.00-$14.48 OOP

This is my Teeny Tiny Town store.  I was in late Saturday night and checked that they had these 2 items in stock.  Tons of Cleanse and 2, count 'em 2, Benevia.  The lack of Benevia is why I had to get there early.  I rolled into the store at 8:30am. No Benevia and 1 Colon Cleanse left on the shelves.  I chatted with the cashier while checking out and she let me know that someone had showed up when they opened and bought SEVEN COLON CLEANSES!LOLOL  Like someone said on a blog I frequent when I mentioned this, I would have liked to have seen the look on the cashier's face when they put 7 of those puppies on the counter to ring up.hehehe
Now, either this person who bought 7 Colon Cleanses has 6 other people they are submitting SCRebates for or they are going to be sorely disappointed when they don't get 6 of those 7 Cleanse kits reimbursed for by Rite-Aid.  Either way, I am just glad I don't share a bathroom with them.
I'm just sayin'......
The cashier also clued me in that the lack of Benevia on the shelf was due to the person who orders from the warehouse at that store didn't even KNOW they carried the Benevia product, thus did not order any.  I knew that there would be no use checking this store later in the week after the truck came so we were off in search of Benevia x 2.......





Transaction #2/Store #2

1 x Benevia Drinks on sale $7.99=$7.99
1 x Colon Cleanse on sale $17.99=$17.99
Subtotal....$25.98

Coupons Used
1 x $5/$25 Rite-Aid IPQ=$5.00
1 x $5/1 Benevia IPQ=$5.00
Coupon Total....$10.00

$25.98-$10=$15.98 OOP

**Now if I had a BRAIN in my head and actually thought to USE IT, I should have used my Fall Gift of Savings Gift Certificates, which I purposely SAVED to use during the new Holiday Gift of Savings period, to pay for this order or the first one above to bring my OOP down to zero or close to it.
Ugh.
And Ugh again.

Two Cleanses down, One more Benevia to go.


Transaction #3/Store #3
No Benevia so I did this instead....

1 x Ducolax Balance on sale $6.99=$6.99
2 x Nature's Bounty Vitamin C on sale BOGO($6.99)=$6.99
1 x Wonderful Pistachios on sale $2.50=$2.50
2 x Act II Popcorn on sale BOGO($.89)=$.89(filler I had to buy so I didn't go negative)
Subtotal....$17.37

Coupons Used
1 x $3/$15 RA IPQ=$3.00
1 x $3/1 Ducolax IPQ=$3.00
1 x $4/1 Ducolax Store FlyerQ=$4.00
2 x $1/1 RA AdPerk IPQ=$2.00
2 x $2/1 RA Wellness IPQ=$4.00
1 x $1/1 Wonderful Pistachios ManuQ=$1.00
Coupon Total...$17.00

$17.37-$17=$.37 OOP

I messed up here.  I forgot to bring my Nature's Bounty $1/1 ManuQ from last sunday's inserts.  If I had used those also, I would have had $8 worth of QS for the $6.99 Nature's Bounty purchase, so an overage of $2.52 in Qs over my total(before popcorn filler)of $16.48.  I would have just had to buy another $2 worth of items to not have the store owe me $ for buying their stuff.lol
Keep in mind that I can use the Wellness card/coupons that aren't available everywhere yet so that took $4 additional off my total AND the cashier let me use 2 of those Wellness Qs and 2 of the same AdPerk Nature's Bounty Qs in the order.  Having this happen is a YMMV situation as some only will take 1 AdPerk Q per qualifying item.
So even though this transaction was a hot mess, the products in it were almost free, so it's all good.

So we ventured back to Store #2 as they had plenty of the Benevia and I still needed 1 package of it for my SCR submission.

Transaction #4/Store #2

1 x Benevia on sale $7.99=$7.99
1 x Ducolax Balance on sale $6.99=$6.99
1 x Sunday Paper=$1.75(filler to get to $15, but a good filler)
Subtotal....$16.73

Coupons Used
1 x $3/$15 Rite Aid IPQ=$3.00
1 x $5/1 Benevia IPQ=$5.00
1 x $3/1 Ducolax WinetagQ from last bottle I bought=$3.00
1 x $4/1 Ducolax Store FlyerQ=$4.00
Coupon Total....$15.00

$16.73-$15=$1.73 OOP

Now not only did I qualify for $51.96 in rebates today for BIL and myself(2 Benevia/2 Colon Cleanse), but the Ducolax Balance has a rebate offer from the manufacturer for $5.00.  Two Ducolax rebates is another $10.00 back in my pocket.

Grand Total for the day OOP...$32.56
Single Check Rebates qualified for...$51.96
Ducolax Manufacturer's Rebates qualified for...$10.00

$61.96 in Rebates-$32.56 OOP=$29.40 in Overage!

Add today's amounts and my November Monthly totals are....
OOP Rite-Aid spending=$98.39
Rebates due....$126.42
Rite-Aid is paying me $28.03 to buy everything I have purchases this month in their stores.

Not only that but I have $25.98 toward a Holiday GOS Gift Certificate for BIL and $61.58 toward a Holiday GOS Gift Certificate for myself.
Plus I still have $40 in Fall GOS Certificates to use to get my totals over $100 and get the $20 Certificate for this program.

Now if you don't have another person to submit SCRs for & just do one per item and you don't have a Wellness card this week can still be a MM for you.
I'd suggest you purchase....
#1 The Colon Cleanse and 3 x Pistachios(total $25.48), using the coupons($5/$25+3x$1=$8)pay $17.48OOP(or add a few more dollars and use your $20 Fall GOS Certificate).
#2 The Benevia and Ducolax Balance and a cheap under $1 filler(total $14.98+filler price), using the coupons($3/$15+$4+$3+$5=$15)pay less than $1 OOP.
You'll be OOP up to $18.48 and qualify for $25.98 in SCRs, making this a Moneymaker of up to $7.50 for you.
This is the easy way to do the rebates this week with minimal thought or work.  Of course, that's if you can find these items on the shelves.


I am loving me some Rite-Aid today. ;-))

Sluggy

I Couln't Resist the Unilever Deal at Price Chopper Last Week...Saved 77+%

Yes, I admit it....
Even though the Unilever Promotional Deal at Price Chopper "Spend $30/Get $10 OYNO Cat" wasn't all that great I still couldn't stay away!  Since I didn't get a chance to do the Weis Unilever Deal but twice, I felt compelled to try the PC one.  After all....what else was I going to do with all those Unilever Qs?lol
I learned on the AFullCup PC forum board that there were also 2 double dips within this Unilever Deal.  Buying 2 I Can't Believe It's Not Butter triggered a $2 OYNO Cat and buying a pint of Ben & Jerry's Ice Cream & a Bertolli frozen meal for 2 Bag also triggered a $3 OYNO Cat.

Let me just say that before I bought anything, I asked the CS Desk Manager what products were valid for the Catalina Offer....the ones only listed in the sale flyer or what?  He said it was ALL Unilever products.  Some how I doubted that but I now had his word on it IF anything went wrong.


3 x Lipton Gallons of Tea on sale $2.49=$7.47/Reg. Shelf $2.99=$8.97
4 x I Can't Believe It's Not Butter on sale $1.50(2 stick packs/2 tubs)=$6.00/Reg. Shelf $2.39=$9.56
1 x Ben & Jerry's Ice Cream on sale $2.50/Reg. Shelf=$4.19
1 x Bertolli Frozen Meal on sale $5.99/Reg. Shelf=$7.99
SubTotal=$21.96/Reg. Shelf=$30.71 **Should qualify for the $10 Catalina Deal**

Also bought...
2 x PC Butter on sale $1.49=$2.98
2 x PC Cream Cheese on sale $1.00=$2.00
2 x Tropicana OJ $2.99=$5.98

SubTotal ALL...$32.92

Coupons Used
2 x ICBINButter $1/1 Stick Packs=$2.00
1 x ICBINButter $1/2 Tubs=$1.00
1 x PC IPQ $1/2 PC Cream Cheese=$1.00
2 x PC Store $1/1 MarkDown Q on OJ=$2.00
Coupons Total...$6.00

$32.92-$6.00=$26.92

I should have received $15 in OYNO Cats for this purchase but only the $2 ICBINButter one and the $3 Ben&Jerry's/Bertolli Frozen Meal Cats printed.
So it was back to my CS Desk Manager with receipt in hand.  I told him per our conversation, my $10 Cat did NOT print.  I then really confused him and showed him that a $3 Cat HAD printed(it was also from Unilever so he thought it printed INSTEAD of the $10 Unilever Cat).  As he had no clue that there WAS a $3 B&J/Bertolli/Unilever Cat Promo, this really stumped him!lol  So he tried reringing the order(by just using the Lipton Gallon Teas over & over until it showed I had bought over $30 worth)and still nothing printed.  That is why I now know it was the Lipton Gallon Teas that screwed it up as they obviously weren't part of the qualifying products for the Unilever Cat Deal.
So he just gave me $10 cash.....well no, actually he handed me $12 in cash!  I said it was too much and he just said keep it.
Ok....I can live with that!lol
So I spent $26.92 and got back $17 in a combination of Catalina Qs & cash in lieu of Cats.

I went back to Price Chopper on Saturday evening to roll the Cats/cash in the Unilever Deal and busted the heck out of my Food Budget for the week! ugh

I was super organized though, with all my scenarios written down and all my Qs ready to go.  I did 5 transactions in 1 hour...and that was counting all the lines I had to wait in as I didn't go super late to avoid the hoards of shoppers.

Just to refresh, the deal is Buy $30 in Unilever Products, Receive a $10 OYNO Catalina Q.  The $30 mark is based on the Regular Shelf Price of the Items, Not the Sale Prices you pay.
Saturday's Loot....



Transaction #1
8 x Dove Soap 2 packs on sale BOGO($3.19)=$12.76
3 x Knorr Sides on sale $1=$3
Subtotal=$15.76 (reg. shelf price $30.59)

Coupons Used
1 x $1/3 Knorr's=$1.00
1 x $3 OYNO Cat from Thursday=$3.00
1 x $2 OYNO Cat from Thursday=$2.00
Coupon Total=$6.00

$15.76-$6=$9.76+$.77tax=$10.53 OOP
I used part of the $12 Cash in lieu of Cats that didn't print from Thursday to pay, so $0 OOP really.
And I received a $10 OYNO Cat.



Transaction #2
6 x Dove Soap 2 packs on sale BOGO($3.19)=$9.57
2 x Skippy PButter on sale $2=$4.00
2 x Q-Tips on sale $2=$4.00
1 x Dial Hand Soap on sale=$2.00
Subtotal=$19.57/$17.57 for the Cat Deal(reg. shelf price for Cat Deal Items $30.30)


Coupons Used
1 x $1/2 Skippy ManuQ=$1.00
1 x$.55/1 Dial IPQ doubled to $1=$1.00
$10 OYNO Cat=$10.00
Coupon Total=$12.00

$19.57-$12=$7.57=$.69tax=$8.26 OOP/$6.57 for Cat Items
And I received a $10 OYNO Cat.



Transaction #3
6 x Dove Soap 2 packs on sale BOGO($3.19)=$9.57
2 x Hellman's Mayo on sale $2.99=$5.98
2 x Lipton Soup Mix on sale $1.59=$3.18
1 x Knorr Sides on sale $1=$1.00
3 x Progresso Soups on sale $1.25=$3.75
2 x Dole Pineapple on sale $1=$2.00
Subtotal=$25.48/$21.73 for the Cat Deal(reg. shelf price for Cat Deal Items $31.39)

Coupons Used
$10 OYNO Catalina=$10.00
1 x $1/2 Hellman's Mayo ManuQ=$1.00 1 x $1/2 Lipton Soup Mix ManuQ=$1.00
1 x $1.10/3 Progresso Soups IPQ=$1.10
2 x $.50/1 Dole Pineapple IPQ doubled to $1ea. =$2.00
Coupon Total=$15.10

$25.48-$15.10=$10.38=$.57tax=$10.95 OOP/$9.73 for Cat Items.
And I received a $10 OYNO Cat.




Transaction #4
4 x Dove Soap 2 packs on sale BOGO($3.19)=$6.38
4 x Ben & Jerry's Ice Cream on sale $2.50=$10.00 *NOT PICTURED*
1 x Knorr Sides on sale $1=$1.00
Subtotal=$17.38(reg. shelf price for Cat Deal Items $31.21)

Coupons Used
$10 OYNO Catalina=$10.00
Coupon Total=$10.00

$17.38-$10.00=$7.38+$.38tax=$7.76 OOP

And I received a $10 OYNO Cat.



Transaction #5
6 x Ben & Jerry's Ice Cream on sale $2.50=$15.00 *Only 1 Pictured-the rest buried in the freezer*
1 x Bertolli Frozen meal on sale $5.99
4 x Kashi Go Lean Cereal on sale $3.00=$12.00
2 x Nabisco Crackers on sale $1.99=$3.98
1 x Dial Hand Soap on sale $2.00
1 x Turkey=$14.20 *NOT PICTURED*
Subtotal=$53.17/$20.99 for the Cat Deal(reg. shelf price for Cat Deal Items $33.13)

Coupons Used
$10 OYNO Catalina=$10.00
1 x $1/1 Bertolli Frozen meal ManuQ=$1.00
1 x PCQ $4 off WYB 4 Kashi Cereal=$4.00
3 x $1.50/1 Kashi Go Lean Cereal Home Mailer=$4.50
2 x $1/1 Nabisco Crackers ManuQ=$2.00
1 x $.55/1 Dial Hand Soap IPQ doubled to $1=$1.00
1 x Turkey Spend $25/Get Turkey for $.29lb=$10.04
Coupon Total=$32.54

$53.17-$32.54=$20.63+$.12tax=$20.75 OOP/$9.99 for Cat Items.

And I received a $10 OYNO Cat & a $3 OYNO Cat(Bertolli/Ben&Jerry)=$13 Cats.

Grand Total....
OOP $58.25 but $46.25 OOP after applying the $12 in Cash(from Thursday's transaction).
OOP for Cat Deals only was $35.78.
Have $13 in Cats to roll in the coming weeks(if PC has any Cat Deals), otherwise will spend it on fresh produce/dairy/meat.
Value of Products $208.29
Savings of 77.80%

Sluggy

Some Thoughts on Thanksgiving & Cooking

This is where I ramble on about Thanksgiving and Cooking....


After having hosted and cooked as many Thanksgiving dinners as I have(yes, I am older than dirt!), there isn't much novelty or thrill left in the task for me.  It's just become another big chore in the big list of chores I need to complete each year.
What I wouldn't give to be a kid again and have an older, more experienced cook in the family handling the Big Holiday Cookfest instead of me.

It use to be sort of fun years ago, planning and cooking for Thanksgiving, back when we were first setting up our household and traditions and when the children were younger.

As my enthusiasm waned a few years back, Hubby talked me into having the Holiday meal at a restaurant.  As I use to be a professional waitress at one time in my life, I really hated the thought of eating out on Thanksgiving.  I know that most of those servers would much rather be home with their families than working in the insanely stressful environment that Thanksgiving Day dining is for them.  Not only that but the amount a restaurant charges for a "special holiday meal" is alot more than you pay for a meal during a non-holiday day.  They use the holiday to pick your pocket a little more.  Plus the food is generally not up to par as their usual dining fare, the ambience of the place is sub par as well, and the owners try to cram more diners into the space and are anxious to get you out as soon as possible so they don't lose a single customer. This also holds true for the other big special eating-out holdiays like Easter, Mother's Day and Christmas(if the place is open for that one).  Holiday meals are the cash cow of restaurant owners.  But I digress.....

The Thanksgiving out was a nice change for 1 year(not having to cook or deal with leftovers) but not something I want to do again.

When #2 son was a bit younger, he had a burning passion for cooking and wanted to be a chef.  Those couple of years that flame burned, I had a ready helpmate in the kitchen for the Thanksgiving meal prep.  A little cooking, a little instruction(not much though, after all, this was crunch time!) and a little bonding.
Ok...a little stressing out too and raised voices when things didn't go well.lol
What did #2 son take away from those holidays in the kitchen?
He can cook enough to feed himself if he ever has to, unlike #1 son, who at 18 yr. of age, STILL needs refresher instruction to make a grilled cheese sandwich.
And #2 son can whip up some awesome real mashed potatoes!

Last year at Thanksgiving, I truly hit the cooking wall.  I don't even recall what I served and I am sure it was thrown on the table without a thought on my part.
The guests shoveled the food in without a word.
Two of my teens(or preteens)ate small portions and quickly left the table to retire into their bedrooms again.
#1 son was in training for wrestling season so I don't even think he ate a full plate.  In years past, #1 son would have been mistaken for a professional Competitive Eater in training at the Thanksgiving table.  I was left with tons of leftover food to deal with in a house full of people who don't necessarily like leftovers.  Even sending the guests home with full plates of leftovers didn't make much room in my fridge.

So this year I am trying to make peace with the Holiday and my approach to it by making some changes to our celebration of the day.
We still will NOT be going out for dinner.  I won't do that.
We are having guests again, like every year, but daughter will be working at her restaurant job and won't be eating with us.  #1 son isn't coming home for the holiday either, so it will just be 5 of us including the company.  I refuse to make a ton of food this year!  The 3 dogs are sad to hear this....

I have been waffling about even making Turkey this year.  I am NOT a big fan and it's hard to do the turkey thing and not have leftovers, even if you do just a breast.  I had bought a small boneless leg of lamb last month and was going to make that instead of poultry.
But I got a great deal on turkey at Price Chopper on Saturday, so it's a fowl meal again this year.  Albeit, a small turkey at barely 14 lbs.  I purposely chose the smallest one they had.

I considered cooking the bird ahead and just reheating/serving it already cut up.  This would take some of the pressure off of Thanksgiving morning but I really don't care for the smell of reheated turkey.  Maybe it's me but turkey has this odor that I can hardly bare.  As it ages, it smells gamier to me.
So freshly cooked bird thursday morning it will be.

While Thanksgiving is all about tradition and traditional foods, I've decided that you don't have to make ALL of them.  Growing up, Turkey day always included my Aunt Ollie's homemade Potato Rolls, Rutabagas(Turnips to you Northerners), Sweet Potato Casserole, Pumpkin and Pecan Pies. The rolls were a 2 day production alone and were started the day before when the pies & stuffing were made. 
I will be paring down the amount of food I cook this year so the rolls will have to wait until Christmas(IF I do them then), the Rutabaga will not be happening(hubby is the only one who eats this & you can't make just a little rutabaga) & 1 kind of pie has to go....the pumpkin wins, hands down.
I have store bought rolls is someone feels they really need them.

Wednesday will be stuffing and pumpkin pie making day.  We are divided in this family on the proper way to prepare Sweet Potatoes.
Growing up it was the nauseatingly sweet Casserole with the marshmallows(more calories than the pie!). I started making a more grown-up version of the casserole when we started our own family traditions.  It involves sliced sweet potatoes(not mashed), butter, brown sugar & maple syrup, cinnamon, ginger, nutmeg and chopped pecans.  Not a marshmallow in sight!lol  It's still sweet but not requiring an insulin shot to eat it. 
My yankee hubby grew up eating sweet potatoes for Thanksgiving prepares as you would a baked potato....just roasted in the oven, served with salt, pepper and butter.  The kids have taken to eating them this way but without the salt and pepper and the addition of a touch of brown sugar and cinnamon.
So I've had to fix 2 versions of sweet potato every Thanksgiving dinner.

Our usual Thanskgiving meal use to include....
Turkey
Stuffing with sausage(sometimes with nuts)
Mashed Potatoes
Sweet Potatoes-2 verions
Rutabaga
Potato Rolls
Green Beans
Carrots
Cranberry Sauce
Gravy
Beets(in the last few years)
Pumpkin Pie
Pecan Pie
Apple Pie(sometimes)

This Year's Menu....
Turkey
Stuffing
Sweet Potato 2 Versions
Vegetable Melange(Carrots/Broccoli/Cauliflower)
Cranberry Sauce
Gravy-might do an Au Jus instead to lighten it up on the calories
Pumpkin Pie
Store bought Rolls if needed

I'll put more of an effort into the Table Setting instead of into churning out too much food.

And hopefully, I'll keep more of my sanity this year....

So what are your traditions at Thanksgiving?
Do you have any Must Have Dishes?

Sluggy