Wednesday, August 28, 2013

31 Years Ago Today.....

....I married my best friend.

We met in college. He went to Johns Hopkins University and me at Goucher College.
We met at "The Rat" on Disco Night.  He asked my girlfriend to dance and she declined.  Then he got it right and asked me to dance.

By the Spring of my freshman year, we were inseparable.....

Our relationship survived being separated during the Summers while in college.  He worked in Baltimore while I worked all over New England in Summer Stock theater those 3 years.....

After graduation I moved back to Virginia Beach to live with my mother and work as a waitress and also pick up theater jobs when they became available.  He moved to Charlottesville to go to graduate school.
Guess what I did on my days off?  If you said, "drive to Charlottesville" you would be correct.
Somebody had to go balance his checkbook, right?

1 week after we married, in the Fall of his second year in Grad school I moved to North Carolina and started and then dropped out of Grad school.  A week later I moved in with my new husband in Charlottesville to his bachelor pad.  That 1st year of marriage was spent living with the hubs and his 2 roommates.   It was my version of "2 and a half men".....

Hubs finished his Masters and we relocated down to Virginia Beach in my mother's townhouse until we got established and found our own place.


Unfortunately things didn't work out quite the way we wanted in Virginia so after New Year's Day in 1983 we loaded what little we owned and hauled it up to Northeastern New Jersey to move into the basement of Hub's parent's house.
After finding work and 8 months in the basement, we rented out the other half of Hub's oldest brother's 2 family home in West Orange, NJ.


Hubs career took off(and I worked various jobs plus did some self employed type things to make ends meet)and after 2 years we thought we were ready to buy a house and in 1986 we moved to Dingman Township PA, outside of Milford in the Poconos.

That is where we learned the meaning of WINTER as that area averaged 100 inches of snow per Winter.
We also learned how expensive electric heat could be and the joys of losing Power in the dead of Winter on a regular basis. 

Unfortunately, money was real tight there(who knew house expenses were so much!?!)so I got a job or two while Hubs commuted to NJ 5 days a week for his job.

We got pregnant a few years later but I suffered a miscarriage when I developed appendicitis.  Some fertility treatments followed but with no luck.  We became foster parents and I quit my job to stay home.
While fostering a year or so later, we finally became pregnant again.

Our oldest son was born in 1991, our daughter followed quickly after in 1992 and our youngest son in 1996.
The years passed.
We survived congenital defects with 2 of our kids and the sleepless baby years.
We barely got through the potty training. 
We lost a beloved pet and had to pass another pet on to another family.
Vacations happened, schooling happened and we lived life.

Our house seemed to grow smaller as the kids grew and the days went by until our 1000 sq. ft. house just wouldn't do any longer.
In 2000 we moved further west into PA into a bigger town(and a bigger house) for the opportunities it would afford our kids.

More years passed as the kids grew some more and we entered the dreaded Teen years.
We survived teaching them to drive and the high school drama.
We survived more pets(4 dogs anyone?)and saw 2 of them go over the Rainbow bridge.
And then the kids started moving away from home for college and beyond and the house sighed in relief and then started growing ever so larger. 
And Hub's career prospered some more and we were busy living life.

The next thing you know, I turn around and it's 31 years since we said, "I do." and I wonder where the heck the time went?

Which brings us to today, 31 years into this journey.

I can't wait to see where life takes us next! 8-)



  1. Happy Anniversary! Our 33rd is coming up on Sept 7th. There's not many of us long time married couples around these days. Cheers to you and your hubby for supporting each other through the good and the bad times. May you have many more happy years together!

    1. Thanks clamco and hopefully I remember to wish you a Happy Anniversary in a week or so. ;-)

      We both belong to a pretty small club and getting smaller every year it seems....

  2. So sweet! Love those bridesmaid dresses. Almost as classy as mine. What were we thinking?

    1. Kim,
      Hey!....I MADE those dresses(and the hats)but yeah, I had more taste in my mouth back

  3. Congrats! 31 more!

  4. How interesting. I love the pictures and seeing the styles from the past. Why did you drop out of grad school?

    You have spoken some of the awful winters in the mountains. I would not like that at all. That had to be interesting to live with new husband and his two roommates!

    1. I was having health issues plus there were financial and just "life" issues at that time.
      And basically I decided I didn't want to work in that industry so why keep delaying leaving it, right?

      I could write a book about one of those roommates...he was a piece of work as they say.lolol

  5. Happy anniversary to you both!!!

  6. So awesome! Congratulations! A very touching story. May you have another 31 years!!!

    You did theatre? I was a techie, all through college, summer stock, then arena shows work for many years after that!

    Peace <3

    1. Thanks Jay!

      I had planned on making theater my life but things didn't work out that way since I got use to eating and paying my bills. lol
      But I have many precious memories from that time in my life.

      I bet we could swap theater stories some day.....

  7. Happy Anniversary!! My parents just celebrated 31 years in May :) I love to see couples staying together this long and making it work!!

    1. Thanks Sam. 1982 was a very good year for marriages it seems. lol
      It is work and it's hard nowadays to find someone to marry who will work at it with ya. I hope your marriage passes the test of time too. 8-)

  8. This has just made my morning. Thanks.

    1. Aw, you are welcomed Debbie....and you made mine by your comment. ;-)

  9. That's so cool. Happy Anniversary! How time flies when you're having fun.

    1. Thanks Tanner. Yep, time flies and it's not because it's so much fun all the time. lolz

  10. Congrats! Loved reading your story!

    1. Thanks B-Kat! I kinds liked telling it.... ;-)

  11. Happy 31st!!!!! It is a wonderful story even with all the problems and the dreaded high school problems!!!! You two are a perfect match.

  12. Congratulations! Wow, loved the story.

  13. Congrats, Sluggy! I love reading your mini marriage-ography.

  14. Belated Happy 31 years! Loved your story. DH and I just celebrated 46 years in July! It just gets better and better! Enjoy each year; they go quickly!


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