Wednesday, February 24, 2021

Happy 112th Birthday Granddad-The Black Sheep of His Family

 I am late with this post but last Tuesday, Feb. 16th, would have been my paternal Grandfather's 112th birthday.  I don't feel too badly about being late with this one since Granddad was, as they say, "a wicked old screw" and not much of a family man.

Frank Foster Bowman, Jr. died on 5 September 1978.  I remember because my immediate family was a mess at that time and I had been yanked out of college the Fall of 1977 right before the play I was starring in was to be presented because my mother had attempted suicide and was in the hospital and they didn't know if she'd live.  It was deja vue for me the next Fall of 1978 as I had just gone back for my sophomore year of college, only to have my mother call and say my grandfather had died and they were pulling me out of school for a couple of days and my brother was driving to Maryland to pick me up the next day.  

We went to Fairfax,Virginia where my grandfather lived and stayed at a motel with my parents for the night.  I didn't go to the viewing/wake as I had childhood trauma from attending 3 of those affairs as a young child.  My aunt and some of her kids came to the funeral from Massachusetts but her mother, my grandmother Catherine, Frank's first wife, did NOT attend for reasons that will become obvious later on in this post.

What shall I say about Frank in remembrance?  He was born in Bridgeport Connecticut in 1909, the oldest of  6 siblings that survived childhood.  His family moved to New Windsor, New York sometime after 1920 as the family is still in CT in that census year and his third sister, Eleanor, was born in New Windsor in 1922.  

At age 16 Frank ran away from home(this would just be the first time he ran away from family)and joined the U.S. Marines in July of 1925, lying about his age obviously.  He was stationed at the St. Helena Training Barracks in Berkley, VA(now part of Norfolk, VA).


This photo is of Frank in his dress blues in 1926 at the St. Helena Barracks.
I suppose when he went to re-up after his 2 year hitch they discovered he had lied about his age in 1925 so he was mustered out of the Marines in 1927.

Frank made his way up to the Boston area afterwards where he met my grandmother, Catherine McCarthy.  They married in 1928 in Cambridge Massachusetts, probably after a brief courtship, and the story is Catherine didn't invite her own father, Dennis McCarthy, to the wedding.

Frank and Catherine lived in Manhattan, NYC and Frank worked as a salesman in a department store there.  Between the 1930 census and the birth of my father in Nov. 1931 the family had moved to Brooklyn, NY.  
I connected briefly awhile back with a 1st cousin 1 x removed(my grandfather and her mother were siblings)and she emailed me these photos she had....

                                                     

My dad is about a year old in these photos which would make them from late 1932 or early 1933.  I believe they were taken in Upstate NY where my great Grandparents lived in Orange County.
The written caption says "Catherine, Frank and Sonny".  They use to call my father Little Sonny.  
My grandfather Frank's youngest sibling, Bill Bowman was nicknamed Sonny. Frank was the oldest child that lived(a son Richard died shortly after birth in 1908) so there was a 20 year span between him and Bill.  Bill was born in 1928 and my father in 1931 so my father and his Uncle were practically the same age. 8-)


                                                           


This photo is on my father and his mom, Catherine and a big dog.  My Grandmother Catherine is 23 in these photos.  Love that fur trimmed 1930's coat and that short flapper hairstyle!

In the 1940 census the family was still living in Brooklyn and Frank was employed as an Electrician Foreman for a construction firm.  
Frank enlisted in the NY National Guard in 1932 after my father was born and in 1935 won a recruitment medal/award from the National Guard.
Here is Frank in his National Guard uniform sometime in the mid 1930's.....



By 1934 my grandparents had another child, my Aunt Marilyn.
Here's where his story runs off the rails.....

In 1941, after Pearl Harbor Frank left his family, the old "he went out for a pack of cigarettes and never came back".  He enlisted in the US Army on 31 Dec. 1941 and listed himself as single.
I also found a WWII draft card where Frank stated his next of kin was, Albert Martin, a friend he was living with at 121 Madison Ave. NYC.  Here's a photo of that apartment building today located at the corner of 30th St.

Frank lists his employer as Gilliam and McVay which turns out was a real estate broker in NY at that time.  So at this point he had left his wife and kids without a howdy dee do and was living in Manhattan.

At some point after January 1st, 1942 he was shipped out to England.  He served in both the European and the Pacific theaters during the war.  
While in Europe he married 2 British women, yes, he was married to both at the same time.  He was a bigamist, thus I refer to him as a wicked old screw.  Frank told my mother in the 1960's that he was married to two women in England during WWII and my aunt confirmed that he had married in England during the war too.
A few years ago my aunt Marilyn also mentioned that Frank had told her he was "involved" with a WAC also during the war.  She didn't have a name or know if he had married her or what.  This just added to his lovely image of being a womanizer.  But he was an old school, good Catholic and he seemed to always marry them before bedding them(even if he already had a wife back in NY).

Once the war was over in Europe(VE Day)he was shipped out to the Pacific and served there until VJ Day before returning to the US.
When Frank left Europe he never told either wife in England he was leaving and of course neither wife knew about the other.  Since he "disappeared" during the war it was presumed by these wives that he had died in the war.  The other shoe dropped the day the second Mrs. Frank Bowman applied for her widow's pension with the British government and was told they were sorry but Mrs. Frank Bowman had already applied for that pension.
Another 1st cousin 1 x removed Shirley, the daughter of my grandfather's younger brother John "Jack" Bowman told me about 10 years ago that at least one of Frank's English wives had a daughter and she had immigrated to Canada but I've been unable to ascertain where or her name(or the name of her mother).
But I digress....
During the war Frank was not in touch with his family, neither my grandmother and their 2 children nor his parents and his siblings.  Frank's mother, Kitty O'Brien Bowman died in 1945, before the war ended not knowing whether her son Frank was alive or dead.


Here's a photo of Frank's parents, Frank Sr. and Catherine "Kitty".  I don't know what year this photo was taken other than before 1945.

So Frank shipped off to the Pacific Theater after VE Day.  He was a member of the Corp of Engineers at this point.....

He was a Master Sargent and leader of his unit.......


Frank is center front row in this group shot of  his battalion.

I found a book written after the war, "The Corps of  Engineers: The War Against Japan: written by Carl C. Dod, with this foreword by Brigadier General Hal Pattison in 1965......

Contributions of the Corps of Engineers to victory in war, and to our country's peacetime history, are well known and appreciated. The skill and versatility of this talented body of soldiers met a supreme test in operations against the Japanese, many of which were conducted in the most primitive and undeveloped regions of the world. Engineers built the Alaska Highway, Canol, and the Ledo Road in Burma. They cleared the jungles to build airfields for heavy bombers and supervised the work of Filipinos, Chinese, and Melanesians as they built runways by hand. They built ports, roads, and docks where none had existed. Indeed, one of the most familiar recollections of the U.S. veteran of the war against Japan is the ubiquitous engineer operating a bulldozer....."

In that context this next photo cousin Shirley sent me makes sense....


My grandfather Frank somewhere in Asia in a loincloth posing with a machete for the camera. lolz

So after the war what did Frank do?  Where did Frank go?

This has gotten quite long so I'll continue this story in a Part Two about my black sheep, mysterious paternal Grandfather.

Sluggy






Monday, February 22, 2021

This Week on the Dining Table

  The "Ex-College Boy's Birthday" Edition....


This photo of Ex-CB was taken in the Fall of 2011 when he was in 9th grade.  No adult was there to tell him to fix his hair....really?!?
At the time I was NOT amused having to pay money for THIS school photo but now it's a funny, cherished memory. lolz

Let's all wish him a Happy 25th Birthday!

Onward to the meal planning!

Moving On-
This is what was planned....
1. Sunday--Chinese take-out V-Day
2. Monday--Rotisserie Chicken, Assorted leftover Sides, Salad
3. Tuesday--Beef/Mushroom Stroganoff, Rice
4. Wednesday--Chicken Chow Mein, Rice, Crunchy Noodles
5. Thursday--Hubs cooks(Caesar salad w/chicken?)
6.  Friday--Mac and Cheese w/Ham, sauteed Cabbage
7. Saturday--Leftovers or ?

And this is what really happened.......
1. Sunday--Chinese take-out V-Day
2. Monday--Rotisserie Chicken, Assorted leftover Sides, Salad
3. Tuesday--Leftover Chinese
4. Wednesday--Frozen Pizza
5. Thursday--Beef Stroganoff, Rice, Tossed Salad
6.  Friday--Beef Stew, Biscuits
7. Saturday--Fend for Yourself

Last week saw 3 nights of home cooked dinners, 2 night of leftovers/planned overs or FFY, 1 night of frozen pizza and 1 night of Take-Out/Eating Out.
Mostly everything planned was cooked/served except the canned chow mein and the mac and cheese w/ham.  The London Broil I thawed for the Stroganoff was huge so I only used half of it for that and I had everything to make a Beef stew so I used the other half and made that.  Because of the timing Hubs got off without cooking on Thursday(I cooked both Wed. and Thurs. meals on Wed. and we just put the finishing touches/heated up the stew on Thursday.

What got put into the freezer last week....
* 1 frozen Pizza
* 1 pack Puff Pastry
* 1 carton Ice Cream
* 1 bag of Scallops

What got taken out of the freezer and used...
*  1 large London Broil
*  1 frozen Pizza

We spent $74.92 on food/toiletries/HBA/paper goods last week-2 trips to Weis and 1 trip to Walmart. This brings our food/toiletries/paper goods Grand Total to $143.85 for February.  I am shocked that my food spending is so low at this point in Feb.  I may not even crack $200 at this point which would be amazing!  I know we've used many pantry old dogs and things from the freezer so it makes sense for the spending to be so low.

There are 6 shopping days left in February.  

I've earned $48.72 on Ibotta in February.
I've earned $00 on Checkout51 in February.
I've earned $4.00 on Coupons dotcom/Paypal in February.
I've earned 5,101 points from shopping on Fetch in February.
I've earned 12,483 point from food shopping on Shop Kick in February.
I've earned 0 points from food shopping on Swagbucks in February.

My savings percentage for last week was 46.49%(without "regular" Rite-Aid trips)for February and the monthly savings total for February comes in at 59.94%.(w/out R-A). 

Leftovers going into this week--mac and cheese, stroganoff, rice, beef stew, biscuits.  I also used leftover rotisserie chicken to make chicken salad(using for lunches).  If we don't eat all the mac and cheese/stroganoff/stew this coming week, whatever is left will be put into the freezer for use sometime in March.

Here is this week's "food plan".....
1. Sunday--Leftover Mac and Cheese w/added Ham, sauteed Cabbage
2. Monday--Leftover Stroganoff, Rice, Spinach Souffle 
3. Tuesday--Seafood/Mushroom/Asparagus in Pastry w/Cheese Sauce, side Salad
4. Wednesday--Chicken Chow Mein w/added Veggies, Rice, Crunchy Noodles
5. Thursday--Leftover Beef Stew and Biscuit
6.  Friday--Not sure what ExCB wants for his Birthday Dinner yet on his day off, Cake
7. Saturday--Leftovers or ?

What do I need to buy to fix everything on this menu?
Maybe a cuke, some grape tomatoes for Tuesday's meal.  And I don't know yet what Friday or Saturday will bring but that's it for missing ingredients.  So it might be a very low spend week except...I started the $10 Feb. Funds Bonus on Ibotta and I need 21 more items to finish it for the $10 extra.  If the weather cooperates and I can find 21 items we need/want for cheap I'll finish that before the end of the month.

What is getting fixed and served at your house this week?

Was last week's plan successful, did you go off plan or did you not even plan what was going to be eaten last week?

Any great deals on food at your stores this week?  Not such great deals here unless I go to the discount food outlet.

Sluggy



 

Saturday, February 20, 2021

Frugal Friday.....the February 19th Edition, on Saturday

The more I do, the behinder I get some days.  I wanted to mention the R-A deals before the week was over(and the Spend $50/Get $15 Bonus Cash Q expired)so I posted that on Friday instead.
So here is the Frugal Friday post a day later than usual.......

*  My Weis(PMITA)Markets Points were expiring last Sunday so I used 100 of them to get .10¢ off each gallon of gas I bought.  I only earned 154 pts. in the last 6 week period since I didn't shop there much and you have to use them in 100 increments so .10¢ off gas was the best I could do.


I went on Saturday and saved a whole .54¢ since I had half a tank still in my car.  Hey, .54¢ is .54¢, right?

*  I already posted about my Walmart trip....


Spent $17.37 OOP and earned back $26.65 in cash rebates there.

*  I also cashed out some Shop Kick points to purchase a $25 Walmart gift card before checking out at Walmart which brought my OOP on the previous shop down by that amount. 8-)

*  And my Rite-Aid trips.........



Spent Zero OOP and earned back $21.70 in cash rebates and $66 in Bonus Cash.

*  I found money!


After getting the discounted gas on Saturday I swung by Mickey D's for an iced tea.  When I stopped at the first window to pay I saw change on the ground so I opened my door while waiting on the cashier and scooped up this dime and quarter.  Yay!


On Tuesday I was chatting with my friend in the R-A break room while she ate her lunch and found this penny tucked under the fridge in there.


When I was leaving Walmart on Wednesday I spied this abandoned penny peeking out from under a candy rack.  He came home with me of course!

Found Money This Week... .37¢
Found Money This Year.... .89¢

*  Last Friday Hubs and I hit the P and R Outlet again since we were over that way.  Mostly we bought lunchmeats, cheese plus produce and oatmilk.


Here are the freebies they were giving out that day--bags of pork rind snacks and 8 pack boxes of kids crackers.  I think these cracker are cheese flavor so they will be eaten at Chez Sluggy or I can give them to Ex-CB.

*  I returned some items to Rite-Aid last week that weren't needed/wanted.........


They give back cash instead of BC when you have paid with Bonus Cash now so I got a cash refund of $17.08 which went into my "Refunds/Post Coupon" envelope to be added back into my grocery funds at the end of 2021.

That's about it from here.


What frugal wins did y'all have this past week?

Sluggy





Friday, February 19, 2021

Walmart & Rite-Aid This Week Between Snowstorms

We had a bright sunny day on Wednesday and I had a $3 Ibotta Bonus if I bought 15 items mid-week.

So I bought this at Walmart on Wednesday, but not without a few hiccups......

2 x Trident gum=$2.24 *not pictured*
2 x Scott tissues=$1.72-.75¢=$.97
1 x Poise pads=$4.84-$2 Q=$2.84 **
1 x Alka-Seltzer gum=$4.24-$2 Q=$2.24
1 x Core protein bar=$2.24
2 x Chobani flips=$2.44
1 x Ocean Spray juice boxes=$2.98
1 x Bic Soleil razor=$4.92 **
1 x Power-Ade Ultra=$1.00
4 x Renuzit cones=$3.88-$1/4 Q=$2.88
2 x Ritz toasted Chips=$5.36
1 x Pringles scorchin' chips=$1.48
1 x Malt o Meal Crunch cereal=$3.48
1 x Malt o Meal Spooners cereal=$4.12
1 x Palermo pizza=$5.00-$3/1 Q=$2.00  *not pictured*
2 x Mead folders on clearance=.50¢  *not pictured*

Subtotal=$41.69+.68¢ tax=$42.37

I used a free $25 Walmart gift card(earned through Shop Kick)so paid $17.37 OOP.

I earned $18.57 on Ibotta.
I earned $1.29 rebate for one of the packs of Trident on Coupons dotcom.
I earned 1300 Shop Kick points*equal to $5.20* for the Malt o Meal cereals.
I earned 1590 Fetch points*equal to $1.59* for the Poise pads.

Hiccups were.....

* I didn't read the Ibotta Poise offer correctly.  It changed from a buy 1 to buy 2 on my account so it didn't count there but I still got Points and finished a Bonus for it on Fetch.

* I had both a women's and a men's Bic razor in my order but neither of the $3/1 IPQs would scan and the cashier wouldn't push them through. waa waa  So I put back the higher priced men's razor and just got the women's razor.  I "should" have bought enough items for the mid week Bonus just at Walmart but without the Poise and the men's Bic I was two items short.

So I hit Rite-Aid and bought this................

2 x R-A insoles BOGO50%=$3.73
1 x DSC 6 blade shave kit w/Gold discount=$7.99
1 x DSC 4 blade shave kit w/Gold discount=$5.59
1 x KY lube w/Gold discount=$13.59
1 x Schick Hydro razor kit w/$3 off=$7.99
1 x Schick Hydro refills w/Gold discount=$12.79
2 x Dove mini chocolates=.78¢
SubTotal.......$52.46

Coupons Used
1 x Spend $50/Get $15 BC Q
1 x $5/1 KY lube=$5.00
1 x $4/1 Schick razor L2CQ=$4.00
Coupon Total......$9.00

$52.46-$9.00=$43.46=$1.83 tax=$45.29 paid for with a combination of Bonus Cash and free gift cards.
I earned back $28 in new BC($15 wys $50, $3 wyb2 insoles, $5 KY, $5 wys $20 Schick).
I also earned 2300 Shop Kicks*equals $9.20 for the DSC items.
I earned $10 in Ibotta(2 x $3 Schick, $1 Schick  Bonus plus the $3 mid-week Bonus).

Then I bought this on my card.........

2 x Nivea lotion on sale=$11.98
1 x Ensure shakes on clearance=$2.37
2 x Nature's Truth Melatonin BOGOFree=$12.99
2 x Nature's Truth Turmeric BOGOFree=$15.49
2 x Nature's Truth Elderberry BOGOFree=$11.99
SubTotal......$54.82

Coupons Used
1 x $15BC wys $50
1 x $2.50/1 Nivea L2CQ=$2.50
1 x $2/1 Nivea IPQ=$2.00
1 x $2/1 Ensure ManuQ=$2.00
Coupon Total.....$6.50

$54.82-$6.50=$48.32+.45¢ tax=$48.77 paid for with Bonus Cash and free R-A gift card.

I earned $38 in new BC($15 wys $50, $20 wys $40 Nature's Truth, $3 wyb2 Nivea).
I also earned $2 rebate on Coupons dotcom for buying Nature's Truth.
I earned 50 pts*equals .50¢ in Fetch total for both R-A receipts.

To recap--

I spent $17.37 OOP.
I earned back the equivalent of $47.90 in cash back between coupons and all rebate apps.

Here are my referral codes if anyone wants to join up-
Ibotta  mkaaxa
Fetch  GC73D
ShopKick  FUN260238


Sluggy


Thursday, February 18, 2021

February Giveaway Winner!


Sorry for posting this so late on Thursday.  What can I say but stuff happens. 8-)
Here is what was given away this month.


There were 12 valid Giveaway comments so I put that number into Random Generator and that picked the winner......


Mountain Girl/Paula M

Something about me--I grew up in Western Pa. I left when I was 18. Most of my family still lives there. I love living in the Blue Ridge Mts. of N.C.
Mountain Girl/Paula M.


Congratulations Paula M!

You have 48 hours from when this post goes live to contact me with your full name and mailing address to claim your prize. (My email addy is on the side bar under "About Me".)


If the Boring Blog Giveaway Box is not claimed within that time I'll choose another winner for February.


Thanks for everyone who entered and the entertainment your comments provide me too. ;-)

Come back next month so another Giveaway!


Sluggy