Wednesday, April 14, 2010

The Most Important Advise About Money You Will Probably Ever Read!

*Yeah, I KNOW my Post Title is a bit over the top but I DO feel that this Post information is oh so VITAL and if taken to heart could help so many people.  
I am NOT showing off just trying to impart what passes for wisdom in my world...just open up your mind and hear the message.
--slug




I am not some high finance guru.
I don't have degrees in economics or lots of designations after my name.
I don't manage oodles of money in stock portfolios that belongs to other people.
Benjamin Bernanke doesn't consult me before he makes high profile financial decisions....heck, he doesn't even consult me about which tie goes with his shirt each day.

I'm just a slob with some money who wants to hang onto as much of it as possible for as long as possible.

I read enough to be dangerous.
But I use some common sense to stay out of trouble with my money.

I am not a young thing.  I've been around the block more times than I would like to remember....and some days before the caffeine kicks in, more times than I CAN remember!

I am now going to impart onto you dear readers the single most important thing I have learned about money.
But before I do I want to explain how I came to this great revelation.

Some time in the past....waaaaaay back in my past I saw some statistics.

The statistics were about debt and how much debt people at different income levels carried.
Now in my simplistic way of thinking you would reason that as your income went up the amount of your debt would go down.

Person A who makes $20K a yr. would need to carry a 30% debt load to live a modest life since they don't make alot of money.

So if Person A made $50K a yr. they wouldn't need as much debt since they have more money to pay for things.

Right?

The statistics didn't bear this out!

The Person with the larger income had a greater debt load than the Person with the smaller income.
Seems that as the income rose, the amount of debt the person carried increased as well.

What was happening here was that....as a person made more money, they increased their standard of living.  Even though Person A could live on what they made at their higher income level, without the debt load when they made less, they chose to increase their spending when they made more money and keep the debt component and even INCREASE it!
Instead of continuing at the same standard of living after the raise in income and throwing the additional money at the debt and eliminating it, they chose to expand their standard of living beyond what their higher income could handle.

This is something I don't comprehend.

If you have a standard of living that is fine.....you have shelter, food, clothing, etc.  Sometimes you have to have a reasonable level of debt in order to pay for this standard of living(mortgage, car payment, credit card debt, etc.)if your income is not sufficient.

Then you raise your income level.
And instead of keeping your same standard of living--which was just fine and dandy and do-able before-- and eliminating your debt with your increased wealth you choose to upgrade the things in your life and keep your debt.
And the statistics show most people not only keep the debt but choose to increase that debt!
In the statistics, the higher the income the MORE debt that person had!!

Now here is MY alternative to this usual American income/debt scenario.

You have an adequate income to provide for your needs plus some debt to maintain that standard of living.
Then you get a raise in income(promotion at work, new job with a higher pay, etc.).
Instead of raising your standard of living with that higher income, use it to eliminate your debt.

Do this every time you get a raise in income until you have no debt left.

After you have no debt feel free to take a little of that higher income and upgrade your life.
Buy a better car.
Buy a bigger house.
Take a trip.
Eat more expensive food.
Buy clothes from the fancy pant stores.
Etc., etc. etc....
But do NOT do this until you pay off your debts!
And more importantly, you do NOT go into debt to pay for these upgrades!

Of course, you'll spend CASH to do/buy all these things because you have left the debt lifestyle behind at this point!

And you won't spend ALL that extra income when it comes around!
No, no, no.

You will save some of it for emergencies.
Because sooner or later an emergency will happen in your life and you don't want to go back into debt because of it!

So this is my Earth Shattering, Ground Breaking Revolution about money......

***When you get a raise in income, do NOT arbitrarily increase your Standard of Living!***


This is what DH and I have done since we married in 1982 & he began his career in 1984.

We lived modestly.
When a raise came we paid off debt.
When the debt was all gone, we saved for emergencies.
After we built enough of a money cushion, we splurged a bit here and there.

Now it was not all smooth sailing.
There were bumps along the road.....emergencies......times we got off track and forgot to save and spent too much.
But we got back on course as soon as we came to our senses.

Was it easy?
Not really.
Especially when all your family, friends and neighbors were buying shiny new cars, bigger houses, fancy toys, exotic trips, and on and on.
It is hard being the one who doesn't have the new toys...at first.
But once you decide not to care what other people think of you and how you live, it gets easier.

And where has this way of living for the last 26 years gotten us?

We were able to pay off 2 student loans in 5 years after DH finished his Master's degree.
We were able to have me be a stay-at-home mom since 1991.
We haven't had a car payment since 1998.
We haven't paid interest on a credit card since 2000.
We have had a paid off house since 2007.
We are cash-flowing college tuition for 3 kids over the next 8 years.
We have contributed every month, since 1984, to our retirement accounts and will continue to do so until the job goes away or DH retires.

If you are toward the beginning of your working life, think very carefully about where you want to be in 30 or 40 years.  What you do with your money now is going to impact not only your life now but the life you hope to have in the future.
You can spend MORE THAN YOU MAKE and over the next 30 or 40 years use your money to pay debt on a lifestyle you can't afford or you can life more simply with cash over those years and have enough saved to take care of yourself in your 'golden years'.

Now go out into the world and use my Great Advice to your advantage!

Sluggy

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Stockpile Cleaning can be Hazardous to Your Health

So after almost 2 weeks of doctoring, my shoulder is finely feeling back to normal.  I guess it was a bout of bursitis like the doc suspected.  I hope to heck I never have bursitis again!!
Not.
Fun.

And I hear you asking, just what did I do to bring on this painful malady?
I'll tell you.
It all started while I was decluttering and working on the stockpile in the garage.
Yes dear friends, couponing can be hazardous to your health! ;-)

With the assistance of hubby and surly teens(well, not so much their help!), I have made some headway on both projects using only my left arm.

Here are some things I have pulled from the stockpiles and am sending from my house either via freecycle &/or food bank donation....
There is another couple of boxes of food in the trunk I have to get photos of as well before I drop them off.

I didn't take but 1 before photo in the garage.....
Now, after 2 weeks, here is what this area looks like with everything put away and some things pulled out to donate......

And the shelf next to it.....

I moved all the pasta from the top of the shelf into the pantry in the kitchen onto the top shelf there.  I had been storing condiments/marinades/spices/and other small jarred items up there but with it being so out of sight, it was hard to find these small items up there if they weren't right in front.  That space is much better stoarge for large boxes of noodles....

The Wacky Mac, Egg Noodles and Ramen are still all out in the garage stockpile since there isn't enough room in the pantry if I want that noodle shelf organized.  I could jam it all up there but then I'd have "can't find it" syndrome again.

I got the soap/cleaners closet in the garage some what organized now too....

And the Big shelves are looking a tad less disheveled....
Top Shelf--Crackers, Cold Cereal, Rice
3rd Shelf--Sauces/Marinades, Ramen/Wacky mac, Bread Crumbs, Stock/Broth, Canned Beans, Canned Pasta, Popcorn, Pudding


2nd Shelf--Pasta Sauce, Fruit, Tomato products, Chili, Hash, Jelly, Peanut Butter
1st Shelf--Salad Dressings, more Fruit, Mustard, Ketchup, Mayo, Oils
Bottom Shelf--juice boxes, Seltzer Water, Vitamin Water, Juice bottles
In front is some overflow of Pasta Sauce, Ketchup and Applesauce.  I don't know why a bottle of Olive Oil is down there.....the kids doing probably!lol

And here is another set of shelves with lightweight items....

Top Shelf--more Cold Cereal
3rd Shelf--beverage central(tea bags, coffee, and some jello overflow)

2nd Shelf--Hot Cocoa, Oatmeals, biscuit mix, Jello, taco shells & 1 can of beer(DH didn't want-will use for fondue or rarebit)
1st Shelf--Bisquick, boxed potatoes, Nutri-Grain Bars, cracker overflow

I still have a second massive shelving unit to work on after I go through and purge more items for donation.  I'm hoping to get that done sometime this week.
Here's a tiny preview of that mess.....
It was neat and tidy at one time but then we just started piling stuff on top.
Ugh.

So now can you understand why I haven't been to the grocery store in 2 weeks and why I am in no hurry to make a trip there still??

Sluggy

eBay....Again....WWYD?

So I sold 2 items to some guy on eBay.  He contacted me twice to get an Invoice.....the 1st time he said ship to China, the 2nd time he said ship to somewhere in NY.
So he pays me and the Paypal page says the shipping address & the place I should ship these items is CA!

Now if I don't ship to the CA address(User is telling me to ship to the NY address and the shipping quote is for that location), and then this guy turns out to be a scammer and does a chargeback on me through his cc company, I have NO Seller protection through eBay.  This means he gets my items, I get the payment yanked by eBay from my account PLUS a chargeback fee eBay will charge me and I will have no recourse....I lose my items, I don't get paid for them plus I lose $10 of my own money.
(I was part of a serial scammers game a few years ago.  He bought lots of things off of lots of sellers and a month later told his bank he didn't buy any of the items and the bank & eBay yanked all the payments through Paypal. At least this guy's shipping address and Paypal address matched up so I did end up getting the chargeback reversed and my payment back.)

And this User just joined eBay on April 9th, bought some thing from someone else on April 11th, so they have no track record for me to refer to or take comfort in the fact that they have a history as an upstanding eBay member.

So if I decide this isn't worth the potential trouble and I cancel the transaction and refund his money, I can get back the $ eBay/Paypal take for letting me sell it.  I will be out .40¢ for the listing fees and then this guy can leave me negative feedback.

I wouldn't be so concerned if this was a $10 item, but it's just shy of $100 worth of stuff!  So my scammer radar went off...lol

So.....what would you do if you were me?

Sluggy

Monday, April 12, 2010

Monday's eBay Fun.....Well NOT Fun Really

So remember yesterday and my "the shipping can't possibly be that high!" guy?
I sent him a pleasant reply with the size of the package, the weight, my zip code and suggested he go to the postal website and check what price he saw after imputing all this information.

Then I get another email from him....
"Well I did check the usps site and why on earth would it be oversized when all 4 items fit perfectly in a large flat rate box. That is a huge gouge in a consumers pocket for shipping. Perhaps if you charge what it actually costs someone instead of such a high price for such a low item , perhaps you will actually sell it. Good luck with that. Unfortunantly that shipping price is way to high for such a cheap toy. maybe u might want to check usps site again for FLAT RATE SHIPPING. Either way I wanted it but I will pass. that shipping cost is outrageous LOL"

All I can say is that this CHUCKLEHEAD is CLUELESS!
The largest Flat Rate box measures 12"x12"x5.5".
He has some insane idea that I can fit FOUR items that measure 12"x9"x3.5" EACH into a box that size.
Furthermore, is he has a problem with Gouging on eBay, he should complain to eBay, Paypal and the USPS.
I told him I was sorry but there would be no way I could ship to him since he seems to be living on URANUS and I don't ship inter-galacticly.

Now my guy registered as being in China who bought 2 items wants to know the shipping.  He has asked for shipping to China and to 2 different addresses in NY.  I have a bad feeling about this and I think I have to cancel these sales.

Oh, how I have missed the eBay fun.
Ok.....I lie....

Sluggy

Sunday, April 11, 2010

eBay Ranting.....Long and Rambling

Well, I finally got my eBay store back up and running about a week ago.

I realized about 5 days in that it was strange how I hadn't gotten any stupid "Question to Seller" emails yet, as I usually am deluged with questions about the items that if people would just take a second to actually read the listing, they would have the information they seek.

Hmmmm.
5 days in and no emails and nothing sold.  So I go to my auction management site and see that I have ZERO hits on the pages.
Not a soul has actually clicked on one of my auction listings and looked at it.
Weird!
This prompts me to go to my Seller's page at eBay and check on my store.
I finally figure out why I have not sold anything, nor had anyone look at my stuff.

I never changed the vacation settings on my Store!
UGH!!
My listings aren't visible on eBay because of the settings.
Double UGH!!!!

Pretty dare bright, huh?lol

So I clicked off the vacation settings and make my listings go live on eBay.....and if I was worried about the lack of as Bugs Bunny would call them...."maroons", I should have feared not!

Here is what I got within 48 hours of the listings being visible to the eBay using public.

Ok...I sold TWO items without a hitch.  This makes me happy!

But then there's.....

1.Someone emailed asking WHY the shipping was so high.  When I figure the shipping I don't just pull a number out of my ass like some sellers do.  You would be shocked at the number of eBay sellers(both now and again sellers and the fulltime pro sellers)who just set a price for shipping without much regard for the ACTUAL costs to them to ship an item they sell on eBay.  Between that practice and the ever increasing fees on eBay(and their trained monkey Paypal), I wonder how anybody ever sells anything on there and makes a profit!(not counting people just getting rid of used items who have already realized the sunk costs on the item).  
I measure & weigh everything I sell before listing it so I have the ACTUAL costs from the US Postal Service for shipping.  Then I add a small 'handling' charge to cover insurance through a non US Postal company(much cheaper than the USPS),my time to pack & the materials to ship that I have to buy.  My shipping price is as low as I can make it and NOT lose money.

I have decided that most people either have NO CLUE what current shipping costs are or are so used to either what they USE TO BE or so used to paying shipping costs from Sellers who regularly underestimate/under charge their customers just to get them to buy things.

My usual response to someone complaining about is professional and unemotional.  I give them the dimensions, the weight and my zip code and direct them to the USPS website where they can input the item's information and see with their own eyes what it actually costs(just in the shipping fees, not to mention the insurance and materials used to ship) to mail their package from me to their location.  This usually satisfies them and they either buy it or they slink away and I don't hear from them again.
I am just so tired of it that I soooo want to be a wise-ass some days and tell them to do us all a favor and please step off the planet. 8-P

2.Then there is the "can't wait" Buyer.  They emailed me asking for a price on shipping to an international location, and they want 2 items shipped together and want to know the price, and they insist I ship a particular rate.

Before I can get the information for them and email back, they go ahead and buy the items 15 minutes later.  Then they send me another email that they HAVE TO HAVE it shipped a certain rate(which it can't go because of weight and size restrictions), they insist on NOT paying insurance(which I INSIST on in the listing, especially on international packages).  Oh, and they want it shipped to them.....in China.
So at this point I know the shipping is going to be alot more than they want to pay.
I go to the restrictions page on the USPS website for China to make sure this size/weight package can be shipped to there.  That's fine but I see that the limit on value per package mailed to China is equivalent to $14.65US.  What they bought is worth $90.  It is highly likely that this package will either be sent back or be confiscated in Chinese customs since I'm not going to lie and say it's worth $14.65.  Either way, having to refund this dope his payment and go through getting my fees partially refunded on eBay is not going to be pleasant.  And if it's confiscated I am out the merchandise too.

3.  This one takes the cake!
Email from a potential buyer about a HUGE set of Legos....Mega Bloks actually but the same thing really.  It's a $100 set of Mega Bloks.  He wants to buy 1 mini-figure out of this set and he wants to pay me $10 + shipping.  While $10 for 1 little Lego man is not bad, this will destroy the value of the New/Unopened/Mint set of $100 Building Blocks if I remove this piece.
Soooo....I can sell the whole set for $100 or I can sell 1 piece of it for $10.
Hmmmmm.....what makes the most sense to you?lolol

Now I could limit my international sales to Canada, Australia and a few European countries that make up the bulk of my overseas business.  That would cut down on the aggravation I guess.
I hate to stop selling overseas as that is how I built my business up....selling international when all the others on eBay refused to(and alot still do refuse to). 
But then again, the last couple of postal increases(combined with the eBay fee/Paypal increases)pretty near killed off my overseas sales.
I don't know....I am conflicted......and after 2 days of eBay I am already tired of dealing with it.

Just taking this all to Salvation Army and getting a tax write-off is looking better and better.lolol

Sluggy