We've been here 22 years as of this week. We raised kids here and now are empty nester here. I've got a few friends here(not many)but Hubs never made an effort to find friends here. He had co-worker/friends whom he hasn't made an effort in the last 5 years since he retired to hang out or even stay in contact with.
Side Note-When we moved here our kids were 9, 7+ and 4+. He promised me he'd find someone to babysit so we could have time out alone. 22 years later I am still waiting him to fulfill that promise. 8-(
Anyway as I go through the detritus of our lives(and the crap the kids left here when they grew up and moved out)I am feeling all kinds of emotions. I go from smiling at memories to full on crying jags. Sorting out the stuff of 22 years of living is hard. Saying goodbye to and trying to find good homes for cast-offs still with life in them is hard.(Hubs says just throw it away but I find that very difficult.)
From one moment to the next I don't know what emotion will come bubbling up from my soul. Sadness at closing out a chapter of my life means that many less days left in my journey toward death. Dealing with medical shit and having to find new doctors is the biggest PITA right now. Some days it's gut wrenching and some days it's "ok". Going into the unknown is scary! Moving to a place so different from where I've lived is scary, even if I've been there many times and I have a grown kid living there.
Sunday is Hubs and mine 40th Wedding Anniversary. You know what we're doing to celebrate this achievement? We are getting a dumpster delivered to fill up.
Good times.
Sluggy
Oh, Sluggy, sending big virtual hugs. 22 years is a long time and such pivotal years of your life too. I can't imagine the emotions. Know you've made good virtual and IRL friends through blogging that will follow you in your move.
ReplyDeleteHi Sluggy, this is Chris. Hang in there. Moving is very hard. We did what you are doing 7 years ago. You will get through it and it will be so worth it in the end. 7 years after our move and I have 2 little granddaughters within walking distance who are the joys of my life. Hugging you through the computer, and happy 40th to you and Hubs. It is a big one.
ReplyDeleteIt is very hard. I know we lived in our old house for 22 years also. Plus all mom's crap. But you will get through this. Dan and Joel are so similar. But think of all the new adventures we can go on when you do move! I am excited for you even if you are not. THis will be okay, alot of work but okay.
ReplyDeleteHappy 40th Anniversary!! That is awesome!!
ReplyDeleteSending hugs about the move too. Lots of emotions plus exhaustion are hard. I don't think that men are quite as sentimental about places and things either.
We moved into this house 20 years ago, and my kids were 2 & 4, so they have grown up here, lots of memories. We were painting, and my husband asked if I wanted him to paint over the door frame that has the kids ages and heights thru the years. About made me cry, and if we ever move, he knows he is going to have to rip out that board to take with us. :D
Good luck with the dr search and all the medical stuff. Have you found a house in La? Wishing you much happiness in this new adventure.
VERY hard. I've moved twice in the past 3 years. The first move was painful, as we'd been in the previous house for 15 years. This one was a bit easier, because the "Great Purge" had already happened. Moving across country was easier, actually--probably because we were younger, and had accumulated far less stuff and memories associated with said stuff.
ReplyDeleteHappy Anniversary!
ReplyDeleteColeen
I’m shocked you are moving to such a different place and lifestyle! I truly hope you love it. I couldn’t do it. I know I’d last a week and want to go “home”. I’m also shocked your husband has no friends around??!? What does he do on weekends and such without buds?
ReplyDeleteHappy Anniversary, Sluggy!!! I agree, moving is the pits, and when you have lived somewhere for a long time, it is doubly hard. One thing I would suggest (you may have already thought of this)---ask your doctors is they have recommendations for doctors in Louisiana. Also, don't know what of the state you will be in, but Oschner's (sp?) Clinic is in New Orleans. Similar to Cleveland Clinic or a smaller version of Mayo Clinic. Anyway, wishing you well with all the details.
ReplyDeleteFrances
Tommy has no friends, either. I don't know how a person manages to not have friends! I had almost 50 years of stuff and a house that had children in it. Of course, I lost most of it. But, moving is hard at any age, especially with aches and history and emotions. Happy Anniversary to both of you.
ReplyDeleteThe upside? Jackson Mississippi is about halfway between Birmingham and Shreveport! We could meet there quite a bit!
ReplyDeleteI can imagine its quite an emotional time, especially as this is the place you raised your family - so many memories in the 'stuff' we accumulate over the years and in the rooms of your home. completely understandable ((hugs)). hope it all goes as smoothly as possible & that you do something nice for your 40th - congrats!
ReplyDeleteHappy Anniversary! All of those emotions are so very hard! It is just so hard to process all of those memories and emotions. Wishing you the best!
ReplyDeleteIt is hard! We lived in our home 27 years and moved away. I don't have much advice except to just take deep breaths and eventually it will all be done and you'll be settled. Happy Anniversary!
ReplyDeleteMoving really is hard. We had a heckuva time when we moved from Seattle to the bay area, but given our relocation timeline (for a job), had no choice but to hustle. We purged a lot. We rented for a few years, and then bought a house. We had a lot less stuff on that second move, but it is still just so much work to move.
ReplyDeleteHappy Anniversary! Hope the process gets easier every day!
Happy Anniversary!!! And sending good vibes your way!
ReplyDeleteHi there, this is Erin. We are in the same situation, 35 years in this house, clearing out things our children left, clearing things I put into the attic long ago and forgot about, memories of things my sons made when they were small, and likely the hardest, being raised by people who grew up in the depression and saved everything, and raised me, why or why did I save these things??? So many loads of things have gone to charity. We are doing some remodeling at the new house so can't yet take a lot of things to the new house. Our change is easier than yours though, since our move is to a nearby town rather than a new state. My husband is still working, and I am retired, so I find myself most days doing the bulk of the moving and decision making with what to save and what to move. Once in a while I take a break day and don't do anything toward moving. This time of year there is a lot of fresh food to deal with so sometimes I have a "canning Gravenstein applesauce" day instead of packing and sorting. We also are coming up on our 40th anniversary. Hang in there! Just keep plugging away, and don't overwhelm yourself.
ReplyDeleteIf I move again the buyer is getting everything. I will take the bare essentials. The kids don't want anything except cash.
ReplyDelete40 years congrats
ReplyDelete